Who sold us, women, the idea that a Prince would come, sweep you off your feet and create a paradise for you to frolic in and cushion you from the woes of the world? They need SERIOUS suing!
I am not saying they completely lied, but is this entirely true either?
Why did this thinking start anyway? Why weren’t we encouraged to embrace independence even in this narrative? Or it wasn’t fitting to the imaginary fairy tale if the “princess” to be rescued had her own little paradise getting on, while she was hoping for a prince?
How was that part, so very important, left out?
A part where she created her own paradise, with or without a prince.
You see, in my almost 35 years on earth, a huge part of that (say 20+) with me being an observing and life-experiencing teen and later an adult, I haven’t seen ONE successful story where a Prince Charming truly created the imaginary “cushion and paradise”.
Or was I… not fully informed about how the story goes?
The princes have been coming, sure. Women are getting proposed to, engaged, and married, sure.
Are they in PARADISE afterwards? And I mean, this isn’t to say they shouldn’t have any challenge whatsoever; life has hurdles of all kinds.
Weren’t we promised safety, though? I have seen (& participated) in a lot of UNSAFETYNESS, safe to say…don’t expect a woe-less paradise, create your own.
You make some quite huge, life-altering decisions, relying on the imaginary safety net that your union with Sir Prince will create.
For some, you raise your children full-time rather than build a financial buffer by staying in the workforce, even when there is no executable plan in place to equip you financially.
For some, simply working and a general idea of fending for yourself lose their importance as you have been “found by the strong, loving and assuring” man who takes care of you.
Hear me out, there is no paradise if not of your own.
Your true lifestyle is the one you can afford.
Relying on someone to take care of you, not bad in it’s entirety, yet beware, you can’t lose your earning ability, your emotional independence and your God given ability to create your own paradise (which should be the new Cinderella story anyway, little Cinderella created her own palace even before was found and they combined it when they met, so she is always secure, whether the prince chooses to stay or leave).
I see a lot of hurting, disappointed women who believed the Prince Charming narrative (I was one of them; my fault entirely).
They left work to raise their children, divorce happens, he has removed her from their accounts (they were only his all along), devastating!
Leave alone cases where it’s not even the woman’s fault the marriage fell apart, (even though there is an assumed responsibility for each person involved when something like this happens). Yet, there are cases where… selfishness was simply the reason, prince charming unfolded as prince traumatising, and there was no longer any reason to hope for a paradise, and you had to leave.
Sadly, you were believing a partially true narrative, and you have no finances to set you on your way, you endure even though every part of you wants to leave.
You believed a lie.
Create your own paradise, build your own financial muscle, and enjoy love for what it simply is: being treated right, nothing else.
Post write thought:
Isn’t it devastatingly sad that, when a woman has no financial and emotional capabilities to handle life on her own, she stays regardless of how badly she is being treated?
Love is being treated right, logistics of bills are simply…the reality of living, what should keep us is being treated right, nothing ELSE!
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