Why are Single Women Single?

It is soul consuming being there with all that pretty, loyalty, a balanced sense of humor, a very good heart(you know for sure you have a heart full of compassion), fit body, healthy mind, financial independence and a very strong desire to love someone but alas, where are they?

No. Where. To. Be. Found!

Hoping for love is hard but it surely gets harder when we think we have all it takes to find love.

A good friend of mine shared an article with me that was basically telling women to utilize their 20s well getting a life partner because 30s is really not a time to hope for someone as men of the same age want women who are younger and not fellow 30s. The article I agreed with in many ways looking at how almost every man I know has a woman who is younger that them, sometimes only a year or 2 less or even more than ten years less. ( I believe it has something to do with their masculine instincts, that make them want to be leaders in every way possible including age. I will leave this for some other time).

I however challenged the article side where a woman is solely blamed for not having found someone up to her 30s. The writer did not express any sentiments in my opinion regarding the mostly untold story of single women. Being ready to love and settle down but having not met that one guy!

In my culture most prominently and in other cultures around the word in some ways, women want to be pursued and to be led to a relationship. We are being told to flirt, ask guys number, initiate conversation etc but even if you collect yourself and do all that ,if the guy isn’t showing candid interest in you by saying he wants to establish a relationship with you, what more can a woman do? Surely a man can not be loved into a relationship if he is not interested in a woman, a guy only become exclusive with a woman when he wants, engage her when he wants and marry her if he wants even after engagement.

I know many beautiful, smart, loyal, independent young woman who are in their 20s but very single. They try to go out as much as they can, engage in online dating, attend seminars etc hoping they would in one way or another meet with a man who will pursue them consistently and lead them to a relationship but what do they find? Men who just want sex, men who are not over their exes, men who don’t know what they want, men who are quarter into them – 3 quarters not into them,men who do everything except being there consistently and leading them to a relationship.

I cant tell you how many times my friends have told me horror stories they experience with these fellows from Mars.

I have had my fair share too.

Therefore when a woman is single up to her late 20s or 30s or any other age for that matter,lets not only look at it as a woman problem caused by choosing their career over establishing meaningful relationships in their early 20s or by being too picky(the comment we always get when you are only left with “He has to be loving” in your checklist).

Sometimes, single women are single because they haven’t been lucky enough to meet that one guy yet, and its called life.

The only thing this woman has to do is to keep going, living their best life hoping he will eventually show up if he will.

This is the article my friend shared if you would like to read:

https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/why-women-lose-the-dating-game-20120421-1xdn0.html